There are only so many ways to say penis! (sex scene writing woes)

The hard, pulsing shaft of his manhood sought out her most intimate part. The glistening pearl of her womanhood, moistened by the fiery furnace of unbridled passion.  He impaled her on his hot sheath touching her secret centre through the plump, velvet folds of her slick core.” 

penis

No, this is not a competition to see how many euphemisms I can come up with for the act of sex. It is, in fact, a sex scene I manufactured for the purpose of this blog using actual words and phrases I found in real romance novels.

I get sooooo bored writing sex scenes, mainly because there are only so many ways of describing them- hence the use of wild euphemisms above. Think about it from a purely biological perspective, ‘it goes in and it goes out‘ (repeat action several times- hopefully more). Try find interesting and unique words to describe that! I dare you.

As an author, I also find myself faced with a slight predicament. I don’t write category style romance, the traditional Mills&Boon stuff, and I don’t write erotica. I sit somewhere in between the two conventions, so whilst I can’t use words like ‘cock’ and ‘pussy’ and ‘she came like a fucking steam train‘, I also can’t use phrases like ‘sunk into her core’ either. And let me tell you, ‘core’ is a very popular way of describing the vagina (Nb- don’t use that word either). Because there is nothing sexier than saying Penis and Vagina in the middle of a hot love scene. Nipple too, in my opinion, is right up there. But I also cannot bring myself to write “rosy buds” either.

I often find myself sandwiched between a rock and a hard place (see what I did there?)  I do write romance, some might call it chicklit, and sex scenes are a prerequisite! So what is an author like me to do?

Well, I recently did something terrible in a book I posted on Wattpad. Allow me to tell you about the book first (it shall remain nameless) because it is the cheesiest, most ridiculous thing I have ever written.  I vowed I would never venture into the realm of the billionaire -playboy- prince as I like to write about ordinary, flawed characters. But I did. And to top it off, it was a cliched lump of Cheddar. I took the most overused tropes and squished them all into one book.

But it seems that people like cheese, with over 400k Wattpad reads in about a month, it’s safe to assume that readers enjoy some cheese on their reading menus. (Bring on the nachos)

But back to the truly terrible thing I did; when I came to one of the sex scenes, I was so over writing them (I had put 3 in already) that I left the chapter blank. I called it “The big sex scene”  and told my readers to either use their imaginations, or write it themselves! What a cheek, and something I could only get away with on Wattpad.  Imagine doing that in a published book? Whilst I would love to, not so sure my publisher would be down for that.

So as long as I write the books I do, I will probably always have issues with those pesky sex scenes. Perhaps there are ghost writers out there willing to write me some? I can keep them all in a drawer and pull them out when needed.

And if you are struggling with your sex scenes too, please feel free to use my handy euphemism list, it is complimentary with this blog post.

PENIS

  • fiery swollen staff
  • hard pulsating arousal
  • bulging fullness
  • engored fleshy sword
  • rock-hard tumescence

VAGINA

  • apex of her legs
  • damp petals of her needy place
  • the portal to her moist womanhood
  • molten heat within
  • passion-moistened depths of her secret centre

SEX

  • He possessed her Lilly
  • He rose up to meet her hot, burning need
  • plunged into her sacred petals
  • love’s hot lava flowed
  • slipped into her moist tenderness
  • she strained against his impaling shaft

Have fun writing your next sex scene! I know I won’t!

19 thoughts on “There are only so many ways to say penis! (sex scene writing woes)

  1. I just finished writing a sex scene… My first (I normally write horror) and I can safely say I got stumped at how to describe his turgid member and her love box. So instead I made it happen between chapters. Such a cop out! I’m now more determined to go back to the gore and horror. It is so much easier to write about murder… Good luck and I don’t envy you the job…

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  2. I suppose I should thank you for the primer, but I still can’t imagine myself writing any of those either. I am writing now scenes that I need to spice up, but I don’t know how. Thanks for the encouragement / lament.

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  3. I try to avoid sex scenes but my recent novel needed a big one (haha). Coming up with a variety of words was extremely difficult. In my case, I used the words pushed and pulled way too many time. Editing it is going to be a PITA.

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  4. I’ve written a couple of stories like this – perhaps more on the porn side of things (being a guy, probably not surprising). But, I’ve had a play (forgive the pun) with words around this and I have come up with a few descriptors. What i find useful is to have a list of words for the offending body part and a list of descriptors. Typically unsing only one descriptor, unles you want to over emphasise – but don’t do that much.

    Looking at what you’ve done, there’s could be too much over emphasis, so what you’re doing is you’re blowing all your words in a couple of sentences and then you’re having to repeat.
    I apologie for all the puns… they weren’t intention but as I was writing this they just came out of my fingers lol

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  5. I’ve written quite a few sensual/sexual message exchanges in the context of a story about an internet liaison which may or may not become real, and the words seem to come quite naturally as I build the tentative relationship into something more full on. Thing is, most of the ‘touchy feely’ implicit stuff has gone down okay but I’ve been warned off by quite a few women I know from being more explicit, as if they want things put in their minds for them to play with and decide when and where they go. I can accept and see how this can work with dialogue/message scenarios but one on one, or more, in an ‘active’ scene I’d struggle where to put it, in words.

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  6. Yishh the struggle is real…yeahh I run like hell from those scenes, honestly the furthest I can go towards that is a passionate kiss haha. Even reading some sex scenes gives me the hibby-jibbies. I have great respect for authors like you who can pull it off, lool. Keep up the good work👍✌

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  7. Hilarious complimentary euphemisms! My opinion is that there are simply no sexy words for genitalia. ‘Bulging sweaty rod’ and ‘moist quivering cavern’ just aren’t arousing to me! Maybe the English language is about due for another evolution of erotic words.

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